News flash: having a baby is exhausting. First there’s the whole labor and delivery thing, and when it’s over, you get this tiny, needy creature who sleeps only in short bursts and wants to feed what feels like All. The. Time. At the hospital, you may think you have your new job under control, thanks to all the support from nurses and family members. But just wait till you get home. That’s when Ybreast starts getting the panicked phone calls from new parents.

“Why does the baby wake up every single hour? Unless he’s at the boob, he cries and cries nonstop— am I doing something wrong? Will I ever sleep again? I can’t survive that many more days like this!” We’ve heard it all.

The husbands call, too: “My wife is going to get sick if she doesn’t get some sleep!” they’ll cry. “This cannot possibly be normal.”

Well, guess what? It’s both normal and natural for a newborn to want to be at the breast 24-7.  Babies are supposed to cry when they’re away from their mothers.  Newborns have a strong biological need to stay near their mothers and nurse around the clock.  Constant contact bonds mothers and babies while helping to establish a successful milk supply.

The good news is that there is absolutely no reason for you to choose between rest and the breast. You don’t even have to reach for the pacifier to soothe your baby.  You can keep your baby close, breastfeed, and take care of yourself at the same time. It’s all about that positioning.

Most new mothers, having studied up for parenthood like a big exam, typically initiate breastfeeding in the traditional cradle position.  They meticulously track every feeding and follow up with a burp and a diaper change.  But breastfed newborns should eat at least 8-12 times within a 24-hour period, with 12 times being the ideal.  Yep, that amounts to two hours from the start of every feed.  Feed, burp, diaper—forget about showering or sleeping; you’re lucky if you have time to pee before the next feeding begins!

This frenzied routine might be natural, but it’s certainly not sustainable.

Enter the breastfeeding mom’s new best friend: the side-lying position.  Talk about life-altering!  In the side-lying position, your body can relax while your baby does his thing at your boob.  So stretch out on the couch and find your sweet spot.  In the side-lying position, you can chill out, indulge in a Real Housewives marathon on Bravo, and even catch a few z’s—all while feeding your baby!

It takes many mothers weeks, sometimes months, to discover this amazing position.  Mastering it early on can make all the difference between a rough and a relaxing introduction to parenting.  That’s where Ybreast comes in: even before you’ve left the hospital, your Ybreast consultant can help you achieve the proper latch while reclining on your side.

And all that constant burping and diaper-changing is overrated.  Let your baby drift off at the place where he feels most comfortable in the world: his mother’s breast. And don’t wake him! (Unless of course it’s been 3-4 hours since his last feeding, but that’s another story altogether.)  If he’s snoozing happily, don’t burp him, don’t change his diaper, and definitely don’t move him.  Just luxuriate in your time resting together, or switch places with your husband so your sweet little baby can use dad’s body for warmth and comfort while you grab a quick (but oh-so luxurious-feeling!) shower.